When a man brags about his talent, people cheer. But women? Women are expected to show some humility, even when they’ve earned the right to crow. And it makes sense, I guess, because if we start letting women act like men on the field, they might want to be treated like men off the field.
Take note, media: Just because we live in a time of breaking news, it doesn’t mean that every piece of news must be reported immediately. A game show is not on par with political misdeeds, weather emergencies, or Supreme Court decisions. Some news can wait. And it should.
For decades women have chased equality by asserting we deserve the same rights as men—the right to make our own medical decisions, for example. But perhaps we’re going about it all wrong. Instead, we should enforce equality by giving men more responsibility and offering them fewer choices.
I’m sick to death of hearing people pontificate about how maybe we aren’t ready for another female at the top of the ticket, about how it would be safer to go with the status quo and pick a candidate who looks like almost every other candidate we’ve ever nominated. We are ready. I promise you, we are.
Anyone who believes women have attained equality should be aware that this sort of thing happens all the time in less dramatic ways in offices across America and throughout the world. Women do the work, but rarely get the credit. Every woman I know can cite at least a dozen times when one of her ideas was co-opted by some man. This is not a dig at men, in particular, but at the way we assume that any big accomplishment ought to be attributed to the nearest white male.
I don’t know how we ever came to the conclusion that women are more emotional than men. I suspect it was a convenient way for men to keep women out of the halls and boardrooms of leadership. Or maybe men didn’t have much reason to cry when they were able to rape and assault and lie with impunity.
If you can’t handle being called a billionaire, how will you survive when someone calls you “nasty” or makes fun of your suits? How will you handle it when some media pundit says you should smile more? Will you be really upset when they call you shrill?
To dismiss is the point of such remarks. It’s a way of saying that women are less valuable and less interesting and less intelligent and less complicated than men. It’s a way of saying that women are less.
She laughed too loud and she had a lot of opinions. She wasn’t beautiful by the impossible standards of the day, but there was something beautiful about her.
Most women know that false allegations don’t stand up to scrutiny. That’s why false allegations are so very rare.